Relationships are not just a matter of fate. It’s about seeking opportunities and building self esteem and confidence to attract positive vibes. Confident people have all the luck, they say, but that’s because they take charge of their life and make things happen. Anyone can do it with a few social and personal skills.
High Self-Esteem and Good Relationships
Self-esteem means feeling and looking good, thus helping others relax in one's presence. It reflects a welcoming attitude, ready to offer a smile or a handshake with nothing to hide. Be true to yourself, develop your own image and you will inspire confidence in those around you. It’s the basis of good relationships.
Five tips to build self-esteem are:
- Make a list of your strengths and achievements, everyone has some, and give yourself a pat on the back.
- Dress to feel good, this isn’t about cost but putting a smile on your face whenever you look in the mirror.
- Pay attention to diet, exercise and relaxation, a healthy body fosters a positive mind.
- Treat yourself at least once a week, whether it’s to celebrate or uplift your spirits, you deserve it.
- Never put yourself down or apologise unless it’s justified.
Building Confidence Helps Relationships, New and Old
‘Same action, same result,’ says life coach Anthony Robbins, and this is true of relationships. A dull routine won’t open up new horizons but build confidence and sooner or later, you are ready to step out of the comfort zone. Going to new places and meeting people is a sure way to enjoy new relationships.
Likewise in an existing partnership, confidence allows both sides to grow and iron out problems along the way with a cool head.
The following tips can be used to build confidence:
- Take charge of your mind, replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
- Take charge of your body, practise a confident posture and positive body language.
- Boost energy levels, keep fit or vitamins, people with drive are more attractive.
- Expect the best, others will like you for it and most of the time, it will happen.
- Learn to take risks, starting with small things. Fear is normal, just be brave and go for it.
Top Relationship Tips
Relationships depend on good communication, verbal and non-verbal. Try the following tips to set a new relationship on the right track or revive an existing one.
- Be a good listener, paying attention to words and body language and never assuming you know what the other thinks. Ask, it shows interest and consideration.
- Be open and always say exactly what you mean. Choose your words carefully but don’t expect others to guess what you think or how you feel.
- If something upsets you, calmly say so and why, and be prepared to consider the other point of view. Don’t allow things to escalate, keep to one issue at a time.
- See compromise as a solution, not a climb down. If it saves the situation, it’s worth giving it a go and moving on.
- Give each other some personal space. It’s a sign of trust and respect and helps relationships grow in a healthy way.
Communication skills, self-confidence and respect for others are essential to develop good relationships, likely to come your way when seeking opportunities with an open mind.
Sources:by Gael Lindenfield.
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Solange Hando - I am a travel writer, editor and photographer, contributing to a range of publications in the UK and worldwide.
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